Our (2017) Second Anniversary

*** Semi-cheese alert. Read at your own risk. 😛 😀  ***

It was 2 years ago today when we became BF-GF. While there are dramas once in a blue moon, it’s generally peaceful and I am forever thankful for that.

While we live in different cities and are not together often (in fact, we are away more than we are together in a year), we make sure to text each other everyday. If not, I don’t stop bugging him about it until he gets annoyed hahaha.

While it is a challenge to arrange date nights with him because of our conflicting work schedules, it’s what makes our few date nights more special. This was hard for me at first but it’s pointless to be sulking every time I’m disappointed because I realized that when you are in a relationship, you just don’t turn your back every time you don’t like what’s happening. You must strive to work on it. And working on it is a tiring process especially if at the end of the day, you still love him anyway and still want to be with him. Eventually, I learned to not fret too much about it. And when I did, it’s as if we signed into an unwritten and invisible agreement wherein every time I’m in Baguio and he’s not busy with work, it is a MUST that we have some “us time” even if it only means him accompanying me to the terminal and spending the remaining minutes in one of the food stalls before I board the bus. Heh.

Conflicting schedules? His day off is Mondays only while mine is on weekends. And so every time I go home, there really isn’t much time for us since he has work. Plus, I don’t go home often because it’s just too tiring to be travelling often. Imagine being on the bus all weekends? I can’t, well at least now that I’m older hahahaha. Aging…pffft!

While only a few people know about us, we are not bothered and we actually want this setup. We got together late in our lives so we want to work on strengthening our relationship first. I fear that it will become complicated if too many people are involved. And I’m glad that these few people who know about us are cheering for us too. A lot of them already volunteered to be our godparents on our wedding. Oooppps. Kung maka-pressure naman ang mga ito hahaha!

While I know that I will not fully get to know him in this lifetime, he has been consistently patient with me and my bouts of bitchiness, hence we’re still together now. And I thank God for that! Hahaha!

While it has not happened yet, the end goal is to be married to each other in the future. I check with him maybe once every quarter. Yes, I do that. For me, I don’t want to waste my time and effort (and his as well) if both of us are not aligned on where we want to be someday.

We are not perfect and our relationship is not perfect. But as long as we still both want to be together, and as long as this is God’s plan for us (which I know in my heart it is), then we will be ok no matter what. Looking forward to the days ahead.

To my honey:

You are God’s greatest gift which He gave to me after losing both my parents. The timing couldn’t be more perfect.I thank God everyday for the gift of you.
Thank you for your patience.
Thank you for not being afraid of calling me out when I am out of line.
Thank you for arguing with me gently, and not just agreeing to everything I say just so I stop nagging you.
Thank you because there was no need to change much just to fit into your requirements of a relationship. Your requirements were really just simple – to love you and those you love. I hope I am fulfilling that.
Thank you because I still get to enjoy the same freedom I was enjoying when I was not yet in a relationship.
Thank you for everything that you’ve done for this relationship.
But can we have at least out of town trip please? Kasi o, ang pictures natin, yung mga puro lang tayo kumakain. Isipin mo, yun lang ang laman ng video natin sa wedding talaga?! Hahahaha! Joke! But you know that jokes are half-meant, right? Right?! 😀  😀  😀
Seriously, thank you for for being you. I love you!


Re-posting some of our pictures in sequential order as I remember it haha.  😛

Palaparan ng mukha, pasingkitan ng mata :p

I asked him to take our selfie/groufie…whatever. Sya dapat para mas malayo ako sa camera hahaha! Basa nyo nakasulat sa shirt ko? Yan talaga ang ramdam ko especially kahapon.

Spending quality time together over a few bottles of beer :p. See those frozen glasses? Pareho kaming napa-wow hahaha. Yes, first time namin makakita ng ganon :p.

Christmas 2016. Pardon the other hand. Nasa harap namin ang pulutan hehehe.

Some solos and the obligatory couple pic 😛

Ok. Ganito kasi yun. Reklamo sya ng reklamo tuwing pinapakuha ko ng picture kasi nakakahiya daw pero pag hawak na nya ang camera, trigger happy naman. Ako na yung nagpapahinto sa kanya. Hmp! Arti :p

Peace yo!

Birthday cake. If we’ll have this again next year, I’ll ask the staff to put a date or at least the current year hehehe.

Dinner at Good Taste. This was the only picture we had that night because we were discussing serious matters aka future plans. And no, we did not plan on wearing blue at the same time. Lastly, we did not eat everything. There were a lot of leftovers for take out. 😛 😛 😛

Matic na sa kanya to take pictures of us bago pa ako magrequest hehehe.

And I realized that I only started posting our pictures in 2016. Waley pala masyado nung 2015. Kebs na haha. More pictures to come pa rin Hihihi.

30 Day Blog Challenge Day 01: Your Current Relationship

The system that we’ve been working on for the past 3 weeks looks like it’s cooperating now and so hopefully, there will be no more excessive overtimes. And so, I’d like to officially start my 30-day blog challenge today, September 21, 2016, less than 100 days before Christmas. What’s the connection? Hehehe.

Warning: long post. Did not expect it too.


Day 01: Your current relationship. If single, discuss being single.

What a first topic to write about for this challenge. A real challenge indeed. But I’ll try still.

I am in a relationship now. He is my first. No boyfriend since birth (NBSB) until last year, few months after my 36th birthday. Yes, that long.

But I’d like to talk more about the years when I was not in a relationship. And the journey prior to being in one.

I have to admit that at times, I got frustrated. Some other times, I fear growing old alone. Family is family but they have their own lives too. It’s still different when you have your own partner/family. I experienced this fear the most when we lost our father, making us children parent-less. After our father’s burial and completing the 9 days novena, I felt so alone, confused and worried. I saw how my siblings and their families went back to their daily lives. As for me, I was just in my house, the house that I built because my parents promised me that they’ll live there while I have not yet decided to go back home. I had to force myself to go back to Manila so I can start reacquainting myself with my reality too.

But most of the time, I was ok. I was ok because:

  • A lot of my friends are single and never been in a relationship too. Some are even older than me. And they are ok, so that calmed me a lot of times.
  • I was in debt because of the construction of my house (my first sayote kingdom). This was financially demanding. All excess funds went to it so I wanted to just focus on it first. I didn’t want to be stressed with relationship responsibilities.
  • I had aging parents to think of and I somewhat appointed myself to be financially responsible for them because among us siblings, even with my limited resources, I was the most capable to do that.
  • I was having fun being single. After college, my parents let me be to find my own world and build my own life. I have been independent since then. There was no one to take into consideration when I decided on things. If I failed, at least I only have myself and my pride to think of. I felt that going into a relationship will be complicated for me.
  • I always felt that I was not ready to be in a relationship. I had too many insecurities and I always doubted myself whether I would be a better partner or not. This might sound that I’m too harsh on myself but it was what I really felt all those years.

Through the years, I have been pressured by relatives, and sometimes even my mom, to settle down. My one and only answer to them was “Umay to latta nu madanon ti tyempo. Nu gasat, gasat. (It will come at the right time. If it’s meant to be, it will happen)”. I was not bothered, but maybe they were, hence the pressure. In both of my parents’ wake, my and my brother’s being single were highlighted. In the Igorot culture, we have bal-iw or chants. It basically equates to prayers to Kabunyan (God). My brother and I were always mentioned in the elder’s chants. The way I understood it, they were asking our parents to look after us children, especially the single ones because we are alone now that they (parents) are gone. I was not offended. I do understand that they only had good intentions for us.

I also have to admit that when I lost my mom, I thought that it would be nice to have someone special to share those lowest moments in my life with. But then again, I quickly realized that it was better to be single during that time since I was a mess. I was alive but not really living. It was a very difficult phase for me, even if I was already in my thirties when I lost my mom. I’m sure if I was in a relationship then, it would be a mess.

The transition to being in a relationship…

They say that doing the novena is helpful especially when you want something badly. During the dawn (Aguinaldo) masses in December 2014, I prayed to God like I never did before. I honestly told him that I wanted to be in a relationship and that I believe I was ready to have one. Previous similar prayers will always include, “but Your will be done, Lord”. Not at that time. I prayed only for that for all the dawn masses I joined. But of course, God had other plans. We lost our father in January 2015, making me forget about this wish. I allowed myself to wallow in sadness and misery. I was out of the office for more than a month. I just stayed in the apartment all day doing nothing or watching TV, or went out with a friend on other days.

In April 2015, I encouraged myself to slowly move on with my life. I had to start the healing process. I started rethinking about my goals, now that my parents are out of the picture. I was at this point in my life when koya (I call him this because he introduced himself as kuya 😛 ) texted. And then I remembered my prayer in 2014. (Thought bubble: God’s answer to my prayer? God’s gift? God’s perfect timing?) But while my friend was convincing me to jump right in, I hesitated. I was facing new responsibilities yet again (sending my niece to school, helping my other niece with her overseas application, acting as the eldest in the family) and it was overwhelming. But I did enjoy exchanging texts with him, I guess. Proof? My phone bill doubled and it was due to a lot of sent text messages hehehe 😛 . But I still prayed for it though. I knew I did not want to just jump right in and jump out if I did not like it. It would be a waste of time and it would be unfair to him, and I will feel guilty for a long time or maybe forever.

We only went out once. The rest were all pure text exchanges. No, not even phone calls. Just text exchanges. We were both comfortable that way. But that one time we went out, I honestly did not want the night to end. I was comfortable in his company. He shared some memories about my mom. I didn’t know he knew my mom personally at least for a short time prior her demise. He never mentioned them in our text exchanges. While praying about him and about this new excitement in my life, I felt that I was beginning to like him too. And I started feeling that everything was just right. No hesitations whether I will be a good partner or not, but just a promise to myself that I’ll do all my best if I do decide to jump in. No insecurities. No what ifs. Just “he seems ok, I’m ready to give it a try”. And the transition from NBSB to in a relationship happened 🙂 .

It is a lot of adjustments even up to now. We were not part of each other’s lives that long and we had our own lives prior finding each other. During the first few months, I used to compare ours to the other couples. But then I realized that what’s applicable to them may not be applicable to us, so I trained my mind and heart not to benchmark. I was more at peace since then. I accepted that we are two different individuals trying to slowly merge our lives together. And it’s a hard process especially given our ages. He still has his insecurities, I have mine. But what’s more important to me now is that we still decide to stick with each other after every bump.

At this point, while I pray that the Lord guide us to be better individuals, it is still up to Him where He really wants to lead us to. And while I fervently hope that it will be a life together with him, I am ready for whatever the Lord has planned for me. After all, He’s still the project manager of my life.

But remember the thought about how nice it would be if there was someone special in my life to share that time with when my mom died? Guess what. He was there at the sidelines during the 3 highlights/lowlights in my adult life. Every time I remember this, I am always in awe and amazed at how God works. Anyway, he was there when I had my house blessed. This was our first meeting but we were not formally introduced. We talked for a while, but like what I shared here, I tried to play cupid for him and a former schoolmate hehehehe. BUT, I NOTED that he was SINGLE  😛 😆 . He was there during my mom’s burial mass. Our only interaction then was when I handed him the stipend for the priest. He was also there during my dad’s burial mass. Now, this is a little interesting. And I leave you with this story and photo 🙂 .

After lunch during dad’s burial

Friends and relatives were just taking the time to catch up since it is often a reunion of sorts with life events such as the death of a loved one. I was attending to the church community that time. Koya was nearby. Suddenly, one of them came near us, put her arms around each of our shoulders and told koya to introduce himself to me because who knows? We might be each other’s “the one”! Que horror and the awkwardness to the highest level! Hahahaha! Too close for comfort too!!! And if there is one thing that I don’t react to very gracefully, it is in situations similar to this. But I quickly reminded myself that I am the host and I just smiled while everyone was watching and I was waiting for him to offer his hand for a handshake, which never happened. I jokingly told the person trying to introduce us that maybe he was not interested. I tried to offer a handshake. I was getting more embarrassed because he did not accept it right away. I was also becoming more aware of my surroundings. My female cousins and nieces nearby were giggling and having the time of their lives, at my expense. But he did. And told me his name. Hahaha! Of course, I won’t forget that his neck and face were red, maybe from embarrassment too. Both of us did not expect that! Hahaha. And in my mind, if this was a test, he already failed 😛 . But of course, the universe had other plans proven by where we both are right now. Hihihi.

That someone who forced us to introduce ourselves to each other happens to be my childhood friend’s aunt, and who will eventually be koya’s source of my mobile number :mrgreen: 😀 .

Whew! This was challenging to write than I thought because it’s too personal than my usual posts hehe.


My friend who was able to attend that house blessing, and who was my unofficial photographer, captioned this “complete family” last year when I told her about koya hehehe. That’s mudra, pudra, koya and me and I think my tito and Father in front of the 4 of us. Back view lahat  😛 . Taken in 2013. At na-miss ko bigla nanay at tatay ko.

That One Time I Played Cupid (or tried to) and It Backfired on Me :)

Puma-pag-ibig sa umaga hahaha! Na-late lang ako ng gising para sa 8:45 AM mass at masyadong maaga para sa 10AM mass so tambay muna dito saglit. Naalala at narealize ko lang kasi ito kahapon lang, after so many years hahaha.

When I had my kubo blessed in 2013, I was surprised (and thankful) of the presence of the Divine Mercy community. I have known some of the people there since elementary years. One particular person is my sister’s batch mate in elementary, who was single at that time. We were catching up with each other’s lives after the mass, together with the catechist, who I just met that day. So syempre bilang catching up ito, tanungan kung may asawa/pamilya na. At pareho kaming wala. At nalaman ko rin na pati si catechist, single so tinanong ko directly kung bakit hindi nila i-try since pareho silang single hahaha! Anong klase akong host?! Hahaha! Pero sabi ni sister’s batch mate, sa isa daw sya niloloko, who happens to be my older brother’s batch mate naman hehehehe. Small world, no?!

Fast forward to quarter 2 in 2015, at a time when I was trying to map out what’s next for me after losing our father making us children ulilang lubos, biglang nagtext tong si catechist. Nagpakilala bilang kuya hahaha. Alam na! Hahaha! Ayun, after 2 months din bumigay na ako kaya ako nagka-BF ayyiiiiiii hahaha!

Ang kulit lang ni Lord kung makapagbiro, no? Hahaha. But His timing is always perfect. Always.

May interesting kwento rin about kuya during our father’s wake. Pero next time na uli at kailangan ko na tumakbo sa simbahan hehehe.

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